Soulmates?

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Are people actually rare enough and unique enough to warrant themselves as being the only ones for each other, or do people just think that they are and it's nothing special?

Yes or no, why or why not?

[jubilee]

i dont think having a soulmate means you have to marry them. I think a soul mate is someone that completely understands you and you them.. I also think that you can soulmates of different or the same sex as you..

I think i found my soulmate but im not going to run and marry him.. OH noes...

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

jubilee said:

i dont think having a soulmate means you have to marry them. I think a soul mate is someone that completely understands you and you them.. I also think that you can soulmates of different or the same sex as you..

I agree to some extent, you definitely can have a soulmate and be married to someone that isn't yours. I think you can have such a deep connection with someone it seems like something divine and otherworldly. I'd say very few people marry their soulmates.

As for how I feel about Soulmates? I'm in between, I'm not naive to think that people only find the one, but I'm not cynical enough to claim they don't exist.

I think, all romanticism aside, there's something to be said for the very important and oft overlooked quality of, "not being crazy". I find that's usually the thing that trips 'em up in the end. I don't really believe in The one and only One you have to be with, I believe in also, hmm, The Not-So-Many and the one. I think there are lots of women who can love me conditionally, and lots of women I can love conditionally, and quite a few women who can love me unconditionally as much as I love them unconditionally. But once you start adding in things like culture, lifestyle, philosophy, career and, as I said before, uncraziness, the numbers drop A LOT...but there are still a number of them. I think I get tripped up when having to choose. I think I could marry a few women and be very happy.

But I would want to be with that one if I can help it because you only have one after all... I think it's silly not to want to marry your soulmate if you found them.

jubilee said:

I think i found my soulmate but im not going to run and marry him.. OH noes...

Poor Dec...

[jubilee]

dec isnt my soul mate.. He is just a close friend.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

jubilee said:

dec isnt my soul mate.. He is just a close friend.

I was just kidding, chill.

You are lucky to find your soulmate though, whoever they are... it's very rare and special.

[newjak]

I always saw the soulmate as the person that understands you better than anyone else ever could. It's almost like they know what your thinking. I believe poeple should marry their soul mates if they can but that doesn't always happen

[jubilee]

aww and aww

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

newjak said:

I always saw the soulmate as the person that understands you better than anyone else ever could. It's almost like they know what your thinking. I believe poeple should marry their soul mates if they can but that doesn't always happen

I know what that's like, the connection is unreal. You just "know", they can't hide anything from you and you can't hide how you feel from them, and because of that the feeling transcends into something else, despite the distance, hardships, and turmoil. My best friend has a soulmate I'd say, he has alot of bad relationships but this girl came in and they get along even though they aren't together and they talk all the time, they'd make a good couple because obviously they feel for each other, I guess things have to be sorted out.

Having a soul mate is like having someone you love truly, but also you can get along with them like they are your best friend. They see you how you are and hold your hands in the darkness. You're so connected it goes beyond words.

Does anyone thinks this connection just happens instantly or does it take work?

[jubilee]

My soulmate is the most wonderful person alive. We aint dating because we tried that and it didnt work. But the love i have for him is stronger than it could be if we were just simply bf/gf.

I like what C wrote. Having a soul mate is like having someone you love truly, but also you can get along with them like they are your best friend. They see you how you are and hold your hands in the darkness. You're so connected it goes beyond words.

I feel i could do anything and me and my soulmate would argue then stop half way through and laugh because we dont know why we are arguing. My life was a wreck, i have been sexually abused as a child. raped and other stuff, I lost a sister too. And he walked into my life and instantly we were connected. We thought it was a sexually attraction but after a while of dating we split up got back together just to split up. We realised that we were meant to be in each others life but if not as a couple then what.

I have gone through four deaths since i have met this guy, both my parents my baby and my ickle sister and he has been holding my hand threw it all.

I totally love with my soulmate. He is an amazing person, I have so many flaws but he just sees right threw them and even though we aint speaking right now, i know that he still loves me and is just giving me some space while i throw my toys out of the pram. But being a soulmate he will come to me embrace me and we will be fine just like any other time.

Sometimes i take him for granted but i dont mean to be. I guess i just need to put him first for a while and be there for him as much as he is here for me.

But yes I do feel that you instantly feel a cinnection with you soulmate but it does take time to work out what that connection is

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

I think I can agree on many concepts. Whenever I and my soulmate tried to get close, something always happened to make things go the other way, that and the guilt that person felt from all of the cumulated things that had happened between us caused it to get more awkward. It wasn't so much that things couldn't work out, but things didn't because of the ongoing fear of things going so wrong I continually got pushed back and I realized that people have to grow on their own. It was the same thing from the beginning, but I had to realize why. But now that we are both wiser we know that things don't make sense happening that way because things weren't ready to handle the innate closeness. I remember several times suggesting it at first because it seemed like when we were friends we didn't have to worry about hurting each other as much, but when we got together it was the same old cycle. So with age comes wisdom.

Soulmates are great because you connect so well that nothing can break between it. A very heated argument becomes a few laughs the next morning, just like two people should be when they are very close. But my innate question is one of logic like I was discussing with David. If you had something better, why get attached to something else? If I marry a person hypothetically but I connect with this person so well that the marriage doesn't compare, then it would not make sense (if I had a choice to begin with). It's like I have a really pretty flower here but I'm watering the dull one that doesn't yield fruit. Am I not watering the pretty flower because I don't want to take the chance of hurting what's there? That's the chance you have to take and being in a bond proves you can take those things. In my opinion of course.

It's like having a hammer and a chisel. People who aren't very tight take a chisel away slowly when they do things that hurt the people they love. But when a person is a soulmate those things only strengthen those rocks. Making it harder for other things to get through.

[jubilee]

hm very deep

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Yes, because my Soulmate is David. I love you man. You are the only person that understands me. You know that I like my cheetos in a can. You sit and talk with me all night before I go home, and the connection I feel when we play Starcraft is unreal. I argue with you alot here because I can't express my feelings to you in real life. I'm going to hate when you leave me for college, and I have to move in a few months.

I go to all your games when I can, just so I can see you. I pick you up from school and drop you off to church because you mean alot to me. You, David Daniel Milum, are my soulmate. Wouldn't trade it for anything.

[Dja Majista]

eh? you're moving? Why don't we just chill here. I don't plan on going out of state or anything.

I go to all your games when I can, just so I can see you. I pick you up from school and drop you off to church because you mean alot to me.

you picked me up from school like once... how many games? not that I care but I think you just went to one this year.

I argue with you alot here because I can't express my feelings to you in real life.

same here in a sense, for slightly different reasons.

You sit and talk with me all night before I go home,

err, isn't it just you talking to me? The ratio of your words to mine is like 3:820. Not to say I'm not cool with it. I prefer to listen.

and the connection I feel when we play Starcraft is unreal.

indeed

You, David Daniel Milum, are my soulmate. Wouldn't trade it for anything.

I couldn't agree more, soulmate. cheatos shouldn't be served any other way.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

On a more serious note, now that someone is gone I can say more or less some of the truth. While the connection was there the problem the person was so subconsciously inclined to be unhappy that it was "making up to break up". More drama time and time again till the point where pain was the foundation of our relationship and it shouldn't have been. I agree that the connection should be instant, because if it was soley work, any two people could be soulmates. All of you don't have what me and David have.

damasta said:

eh? you're moving? Why don't we just chill here. I don't plan on going out of state or anything.

I thought I told you and my other "soulmate" about the whole Kuwait thing, I guess I'll have to figure all of that out.

damasta said:

you picked me up from school like once... how many games? not that I care but I think you just went to one this year.

I picked you up from school because I cared...

And I did try to go to more, it's the though that counts, I was at more last year. Stop being so selfish, it isn't always about you.

damasta said:

same here in a sense, for slightly different reasons.

It's ok, I understand.

damasta said:

err, isn't it just you talking to me? The ratio of your words to mine is like 3:820. Not to say I'm not cool with it. I prefer to listen.

That's because you have to think things out and aren't witty enough to compete. I have friends where I do all of the listening, for example when Alex came over the ratio shifted, and in some instances it's the opposite entirely. But soulmates listen don't they.

damasta said:

indeed

Yea, owning you feels so good inside.

damasta said:

I couldn't agree more, soulmate. cheatos shouldn't be served any other way.

Would you eat them in a bag? Would you eat them in a can? Hell yes, I would eat them like that Sam I Am!!

Oh and it's "Cheetos".

[Psyquis52]

This is a very deep discussion.

Too deep for me to get involved in at this point.

Suffice to say I met my soulmate and married her. She is quite literally my other half. I am incomplete without her.

Before I met her I had an idea of her in my head that I couldn't shake.
Throughout all my relationships and possible relationships in my life I couldn't get past that one undeniable truth that somewhere out there is a person for me. After traveling all over the world I found her in the most inexplicable place. Home.
Things like this happen all the time. People respond differently and not everyone is quite as romantically enclined as I am.

My point? I may not have one. Perhaps in my telling you this much it would help one or two of you in your search for your soulmate or it might help you to determine what you must do when you meet such a person.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

psyquis52 said:

This is a very deep discussion.

Too deep for me to get involved in at this point.

Suffice to say I met my soulmate and married her. She is quite literally my other half. I am incomplete without her.

Before I met her I had an idea of her in my head that I couldn't shake.
Throughout all my relationships and possible relationships in my life I couldn't get past that one undeniable truth that somewhere out there is a person for me. After traveling all over the world I found her in the most inexplicable place. Home.
Things like this happen all the time. People respond differently and not everyone is quite as romantically enclined as I am.

My point? I may not have one. Perhaps in my telling you this much it would help one or two of you in your search for your soulmate or it might help you to determine what you must do when you meet such a person.

I would like you to get further involved with us.

But tell me is their something wrong when you and your soulmate are f***ed up? Like in the head? Does that make you both right for one another?

[Psyquis52]

I'm confused by that question.

Are you asking if they are extremely peculiar or if they are mentally handicapped or if they are insane?

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

psyquis52 said:

I'm confused by that question.

Are you asking if they are extremely peculiar or if they are mentally handicapped or if they are insane?

Insane.

[Psyquis52]

Now we have to define the term insane.

I'm assuming that we're going on a fairly literal definition.
So....I suppose but really marriages are better off moving towards a healthy lifestyle. Meaning that one of the focuses for the married couple should be the embetterment of both parties. Nobody should become married and remain the same person they were before. Constant improvement is required for a successful marriage.
So essentially they may enter marriage f@#$ed up but they shouldn't stay that way.

[Marcus4600]

A big part of my marriage has just been the presence of clarity. I mean, it's 3:15 in the morning, my cat is out cold behind me, and the wife is sleeping. I've never been calmer in my life. In its essence, being with a soulmate can make life above and beyond what it was before.

[tshern]

Very well put, Marcus. I think I somewhat know the feeling though I'm not married.

I believe there can be more than one soulmate. Really, if we only had one soulmate, it wouldn't be to likely to find one. Of course we all have different definitions for soulmate, but I dare say that I have two soulmates I am aware of. Hopefully there will be more, it is a fabulous feeling to have one...

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

psyquis52 said:

Now we have to define the term insane.

I'm assuming that we're going on a fairly literal definition.
So....I suppose but really marriages are better off moving towards a healthy lifestyle. Meaning that one of the focuses for the married couple should be the embetterment of both parties. Nobody should become married and remain the same person they were before. Constant improvement is required for a successful marriage.
So essentially they may enter marriage f@#$ed up but they shouldn't stay that way.

I definitely agree that people should want to change and grow. I just meant if the two people in question are a little cooky could they be soulmates?

marcus4600 said:

A big part of my marriage has just been the presence of clarity. I mean, it's 3:15 in the morning, my cat is out cold behind me, and the wife is sleeping. I've never been calmer in my life. In its essence, being with a soulmate can make life above and beyond what it was before.

Clarity, good point.

[Psyquis52]

My wife and I are cooky and we're soulmates.

Define cooky.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Just eccentric. By crazy I meant nuts and dysfunctional. If you saw a couple crazy like Ike and Tina but they were close, would that be ok?

[Psyquis52]

Geez....

I guess but if they are like Ike and Tina then they should be locked up.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

psyquis52 said:

Geez....

I guess but if they are like Ike and Tina then they should be locked up.

But locked in the same cell right?

[Psyquis52]

Sure why not.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Love wouldn't have it any other way.
*sigh*