Post by The Big Daddy C-Master on Aug 28, 2014 5:43:57 GMT -5
I had a recent birthday on the 25th and I was out with a close friend of mine who is a bit older than I am (about 49), he's a business owner.
Anyways we were chatting it up a bit, and he was saying, "What do you plan on doing in 5 years?" I told him and he said, "Well I just want you to make the most out of life. You're have the ladies lined up for you, you're good looking, you have your own business, you're creative, smart, etc. But you're really conservative. You're like the oldest 20 something that I've ever met. You have to go out and open yourself up to more people and get the most out of life. I don't want you to see that life has passed you by."
We talked about it for a while, and while I think that networking with other smart/successful people is always good and something to do. I don't agree that simply "adding people" around you makes you "happy". It might for some people in some ways, but I don't think it's necessary. I actually feel that people who have to others around might have issues, or are too weak minded or insecure in some ways. What I mean is that many of them don't like to be alone because they have to take a long introspective look at themselves and they don't often like what they find. They often escape their "lives" by going out and partying for a weekend or whatever, only to go back to the drudgery of life once Monday starts again. I do what I want when I want and I don't answer to anybody. I wouldn't trade my life for the world. I'm not saying my friend is like this. He has a good time I'm sure.
I for instance can read a book or design something and get great enjoyment out of it. It doesn't make me miserable in the least, and adding another person to the equation doesn't suddenly "make it better". Some people might get enjoyment out of it, but I don't necessarily feel the same way.
I've done a lot of group activities in my day. Public speaking, martial arts, I was in the drumline, modeled, etc, so I've been around people, but it doesn't mean it's necessarily better because they're there. Happiness comes from within the actual person. Moving a woman in and spitting out babies for instance won't make you happy either (and it doesn't for a lot of men).
Thoughts?
Anyways we were chatting it up a bit, and he was saying, "What do you plan on doing in 5 years?" I told him and he said, "Well I just want you to make the most out of life. You're have the ladies lined up for you, you're good looking, you have your own business, you're creative, smart, etc. But you're really conservative. You're like the oldest 20 something that I've ever met. You have to go out and open yourself up to more people and get the most out of life. I don't want you to see that life has passed you by."
We talked about it for a while, and while I think that networking with other smart/successful people is always good and something to do. I don't agree that simply "adding people" around you makes you "happy". It might for some people in some ways, but I don't think it's necessary. I actually feel that people who have to others around might have issues, or are too weak minded or insecure in some ways. What I mean is that many of them don't like to be alone because they have to take a long introspective look at themselves and they don't often like what they find. They often escape their "lives" by going out and partying for a weekend or whatever, only to go back to the drudgery of life once Monday starts again. I do what I want when I want and I don't answer to anybody. I wouldn't trade my life for the world. I'm not saying my friend is like this. He has a good time I'm sure.
I for instance can read a book or design something and get great enjoyment out of it. It doesn't make me miserable in the least, and adding another person to the equation doesn't suddenly "make it better". Some people might get enjoyment out of it, but I don't necessarily feel the same way.
I've done a lot of group activities in my day. Public speaking, martial arts, I was in the drumline, modeled, etc, so I've been around people, but it doesn't mean it's necessarily better because they're there. Happiness comes from within the actual person. Moving a woman in and spitting out babies for instance won't make you happy either (and it doesn't for a lot of men).
Thoughts?
