5 Reasons Why Friends Are Overrated

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Interesting. What do you think?

amusity.blogspot.com/2011/12/5-reasons-why-friends-are-overrated.html

Every now and then someone asks me how I pick, prioritize and value my friends. I'm assuming this is because they see how I blatantly I disregard my own friends and wonder how I even have them at all.

Well I disregard most of them because they're overrated. Here are some of the reasons:

We Don't Respect Them (Necessarily)

Has anyone else noticed that the people we respect aren't necessarily the ones we're friends with? If you have then yayy you're not retarded. This is because we don't make or keep friends based on whether we can respect them or not. We pick them because they make us feel good or are fun to be around. We keep them because they've been our friends for years and it's just habit now and because they were there for us that one time and we feel indebted to them. You might respect some of your friends, but it's not because they're your friends. It's because they have some quality or qualities that you admire.


They're Parasites

I'll just come out and say it. Friends are needy fucks. They need us to give them relationship advice then they don't take it anyway, to give them rides to the airport, to spot them for lunch, to sign them in when they miss a class, to borrow our notes because they're idiots, to edit their essays because they can't write and get mad at us when we neglect them. I know some girl reading this is going to be like "Yes but my friends have been there for me when I needed them the most. My friends are my life" Well that might be true, but you've just given me another reason why they're overrated....see below


They Inhibit Personal Growth

I'll frequently see a girl post a hippy-ass update that talks about how great her friends are and how much she loves them for getting her through a difficult time or how they make life worth living..blah blah blah. Do you know what that girl ISN'T doing while she's going to her friends to get her through hard times? Learning how to get through periods of hardship on her own. I'm not saying that friends aren't sometimes necessary and beneficial in terms of the support they give. They are. But there's a line between going to your friends when you need them and going to them because you can't figure shit out on your own anymore.


They're Distractions

Nothing makes me happier than hearing someone bitch because their resume is empty or because they don't do well in classes or because they have no skills or talents to speak of whatsoever (Okay they don't say that but they should). It makes me happy because it's just another schmuck that I don't have to compete with in the real world but it makes me frustrated in that I want to grab them and scream "Maybe if you didn't go on that 4th McDonald's trip at 4am then maybe you could have studied harder!" or "Maybe if you weren't running around tending to all your friends' needs then you could have invested some time into yourself" or "Maybe if you didn't follow your friend out to her summer beach house last summer then you could have applied for an internship"

You can make friends anytime you want. Hell you can even get back the friends who are mad at you because you neglected them anytime you want. But you can never go back and regain the time you lost you wasted because of them.


They Piss Us Off
I hate going to clubs. Why? Because I put up with all this annoying bullshit like spending a ton of money, getting ready, trying to find a good group of people to go with, trying to get into a club, and taking care of drunk people just for the sake of knowing that I'm at a club. All of those things are unacceptable individually but I put up with all that just because going to a club is apparently very fun.

Friendship is like going clubbing. You put up with all this unacceptable bullshit just because you're their friend and it's apparently very rewarding to do so. But more often than not our friends piss us off more than anyone. Is it because they're inherently bad or annoying or incompetent people? Sometimes yes. But usually it's because we're around them so much that it's inevitable that they're going to piss us off frequently. So I distance myself from them, it gives them less of a chance to ruin my day.

[Maulen]

I have really good friends, they are not perfect friends but I can say they are awesome. I must be really lucky to meet them, it's like I have clones and we get along very well. but there's always this one friend with totally different personality got mixed up in the group. someone said, there's always black sheep in the family, if you can't spot one, you are probably it. sometimes it makes me wonder what they think of me, maybe it's just one-sided, maybe it's not.

But after reading those, I think they are pretty interesting. I may not have friends like those but that's how see friendship nowadays.

[JACK-2]

I only have a few select friend and one Best friend. So, it's not an issue for me. But, you know what's underrated? Money. People always put family and friends over money.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Mar 4, 2015 8:24:11 GMT -5 Maulen said:

I have really good friends, they are not perfect friends but I can say they are awesome. I must be really lucky to meet them, it's like I have clones and we get along very well. but there's always this one friend with totally different personality got mixed up in the group. someone said, there's always black sheep in the family, if you can't spot one, you are probably it. sometimes it makes me wonder what they think of me, maybe it's just one-sided, maybe it's not.

But after reading those, I think they are pretty interesting. I may not have friends like those but that's how see friendship nowadays.

Yea if you're going to find others find people who have similar interests to you or things you'd like doing. I'd personally find someone who was trying to move forward and not backward. I don't need the dead weight. Like this article says people put up with dead weight just to have someone there.

Mar 4, 2015 8:42:16 GMT -5 JACK-2 said:

I only have a few select friend and one Best friend. So, it's not an issue for me. But, you know what's underrated? Money. People always put family and friends over money.

Well I'd hope you only have one best friend. Not like those chicks who have 50 "best best" friends lol. I think the friends over money thing is just what people will say so they can sound "nice" deep down they value it very highly and recognize it's importance, just look what people do over wills.

This whole thing stems from this idea that "you have to surround yourselves with others to be happy" concept. Needing others around to be happy is a sign of neediness.

I'll put it this way if I had to give up everything I had just to hang out with the same people vs making new friends and keeping everything I'd do option 2 every time.

[JACK-2]

It's also BS because when your poor and around poor people it's not fun to be around. Poor people are some of the most miserable people out there. Having things is much more better for your well-being. Personally, I can't stand people outside of very loose relationships. That's why superficial friendships and acquaintances are the best. Real friends and family are a pain in the ass.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Mar 5, 2015 3:54:03 GMT -5 JACK-2 said:

It's also BS because when your poor and around poor people it's not fun to be around. Poor people are some of the most miserable people out there. Having things is much more better for your well-being. Personally, I can't stand people outside of very loose relationships. That's why superficial friendships and acquaintances are the best. Real friends and family are a pain in the ass.

That's because money isn't the only reason. It's a part of it but it's just a symptom. It's being around intelligent and driven people who have accomplished something and are moving forward vs being around people who want nothing and mope.

You and I aren't needy and we have a lot in common. When you're in the mood to talk you do and then you can do your own thing after a while. There's no upkeep and having to entertain others. When you're not needy you don't have to worry about people dragging you down because you can do without the relationship if necessary.

[JACK-2]

Well, I've learned the hard way. People tend to be selfish in that they can treat you or your time how they like and expect you not to mind. I find being alone is alot easier than dealing with people and alot more productive.

[The Big Daddy C-Master]

Mar 6, 2015 2:13:11 GMT -5 JACK-2 said:

Well, I've learned the hard way. People tend to be selfish in that they can treat you or your time how they like and expect you not to mind. I find being alone is alot easier than dealing with people and alot more productive.

Everybody does what's in their own self interest. It's human and there's nothing wrong with that. The problem is when people try to take advantage of others or use others for their own end. People who need others to be happy are just needy and dependent. They can't understand why others don't think the way they do which is why they're so weak. Nothing wrong with doing things with others but why depend on it?