Post by The Big Daddy C-Master on Dec 19, 2017 9:30:51 GMT -5
BECAUSE AT SOME POINT, WE ALL HAVE TO SETTLE.
Hear me out.
I tend to be very unpopular to most people, as I like to believe I am objective and to the point. And when I need to drive the point home, sometimes I lack tact. If that is the case here, please let me know.
For some reason, we seem to think advances in technology and such would erase what we truly are. Primal beings. At the end of the day, our basic instincts will always play a significant role in our lives. Be it consciously or not.
A man wants the most beautiful woman to carry on his genes.
A woman wants the best provider for her and her children.
Over time, technological, philosophical, theological and societal advances have made up add other qualities to what an ideal mate is, but one thing still remains. The main thing we have sought through the ages, and will continue to.
Now, majority of women today get to meet/date their ideal man in their lifetime, while most men do not. Simply because women have it easier.
Most men want this
but cannot get her, because like most women, she is looking for this
Now this guy KNOWS he is what most women want, he gets to sleep with who he wants, date who he wants. HE HAS THE CHOICE. In the end, guys have no choice but to SETTLE for this
who only SETTLES for this
Because she realizes guy in picture number 2 has CHOSEN lady in picture number 1.
Now, I am not saying it always ends up like that, but it is primarily the way.
There are not enough hot guys to go around, so when most women realize that, they go for the regular guys, who have no choice to but to settle for the regular women because they never had a chance with the hot girls in the first place. During this learning process, a lot of regular guys build resentment for the constant rejection they have gotten over the years. The regular girls on the other hand build their own resentment towards men, because of the hot guys they have met who treat them like shit because of the options they have.
Learning process over, now you have a large number of the population who have this resentment towards each other forced to settle for one another. They now find a way to console themselves for their choices, they begin to find qualities in the other one that makes them love em. “He is a great father” ‘he is a great listener” “she is my best friend” “she has a beautiful heart”. Well no shit. You have no choice but to make the best of a situation. The one you want you cannot get.
Some people realize early in life they don’t have a shot, and lower their standards and expectations. Some as early as middle school.
Social media has done more to damage interpersonal relationships in my opinion. More so make people have higher standards than they should.
Take lady in pic #3. She has an instagram with 5000 followers, she posts a pic. It get 3000 likes, 500 comments all calling her hot. She knows 500 men call her hot daily. Her self esteem goes up. What she doesn't know is that these 500 guys are spred over the world, not in her local area. She in turn follows 100 hot guys. She see’s them daily on her feed, comments on their pic, they like the comment. Her standards go up. None of the 100 hot guys she follows lives within a 50 mile radius of her. In real life, she goes to a bar. The regular guys are coming up to her, she keeps turning them down. She knows 500 men tell her she is hot daily. She in turn is waiting for the hot guy, who is surrounded by women, not paying attention to her. Resentment builds in her, and the regular guys she turned gown earlier.
In cave man days, she would go for the guy most likely to bring home wooly mammoth thighs. He has his pick, she settles for the lesser guys drooling over the one big boss picked, who brings the deer.
In the 50’s, she would go for the guy most likely to provide the white picket fence with pension and a 2 car garage. He has his pick, she settles for the lesser guy drooling over the one provider picked, who brings has a 1 car garage house.
Today, she is going for the guy who can bring endless red bottom heels and yacht trips, or looks like guy in pic #2, he has his pick. She settles for the regular guys you see everyday. Who have mortgages, make a decent salary. He on the other hand realizes none if the Kardashians or Beyonce will ever wake up next to him.
THAT IS JUST THE WAY OF THE WORLD
Hear me out.
I tend to be very unpopular to most people, as I like to believe I am objective and to the point. And when I need to drive the point home, sometimes I lack tact. If that is the case here, please let me know.
For some reason, we seem to think advances in technology and such would erase what we truly are. Primal beings. At the end of the day, our basic instincts will always play a significant role in our lives. Be it consciously or not.
A man wants the most beautiful woman to carry on his genes.
A woman wants the best provider for her and her children.
Over time, technological, philosophical, theological and societal advances have made up add other qualities to what an ideal mate is, but one thing still remains. The main thing we have sought through the ages, and will continue to.
Now, majority of women today get to meet/date their ideal man in their lifetime, while most men do not. Simply because women have it easier.
Most men want this
but cannot get her, because like most women, she is looking for this
Now this guy KNOWS he is what most women want, he gets to sleep with who he wants, date who he wants. HE HAS THE CHOICE. In the end, guys have no choice but to SETTLE for this
who only SETTLES for this
Because she realizes guy in picture number 2 has CHOSEN lady in picture number 1.
Now, I am not saying it always ends up like that, but it is primarily the way.
There are not enough hot guys to go around, so when most women realize that, they go for the regular guys, who have no choice to but to settle for the regular women because they never had a chance with the hot girls in the first place. During this learning process, a lot of regular guys build resentment for the constant rejection they have gotten over the years. The regular girls on the other hand build their own resentment towards men, because of the hot guys they have met who treat them like shit because of the options they have.
Learning process over, now you have a large number of the population who have this resentment towards each other forced to settle for one another. They now find a way to console themselves for their choices, they begin to find qualities in the other one that makes them love em. “He is a great father” ‘he is a great listener” “she is my best friend” “she has a beautiful heart”. Well no shit. You have no choice but to make the best of a situation. The one you want you cannot get.
Some people realize early in life they don’t have a shot, and lower their standards and expectations. Some as early as middle school.
Social media has done more to damage interpersonal relationships in my opinion. More so make people have higher standards than they should.
Take lady in pic #3. She has an instagram with 5000 followers, she posts a pic. It get 3000 likes, 500 comments all calling her hot. She knows 500 men call her hot daily. Her self esteem goes up. What she doesn't know is that these 500 guys are spred over the world, not in her local area. She in turn follows 100 hot guys. She see’s them daily on her feed, comments on their pic, they like the comment. Her standards go up. None of the 100 hot guys she follows lives within a 50 mile radius of her. In real life, she goes to a bar. The regular guys are coming up to her, she keeps turning them down. She knows 500 men tell her she is hot daily. She in turn is waiting for the hot guy, who is surrounded by women, not paying attention to her. Resentment builds in her, and the regular guys she turned gown earlier.
In cave man days, she would go for the guy most likely to bring home wooly mammoth thighs. He has his pick, she settles for the lesser guys drooling over the one big boss picked, who brings the deer.
In the 50’s, she would go for the guy most likely to provide the white picket fence with pension and a 2 car garage. He has his pick, she settles for the lesser guy drooling over the one provider picked, who brings has a 1 car garage house.
Today, she is going for the guy who can bring endless red bottom heels and yacht trips, or looks like guy in pic #2, he has his pick. She settles for the regular guys you see everyday. Who have mortgages, make a decent salary. He on the other hand realizes none if the Kardashians or Beyonce will ever wake up next to him.
THAT IS JUST THE WAY OF THE WORLD